Importance of Oral Communication:
Oral Communication is the backbone of modern corporate world. So that makes it necessary for you to have some training in oral communication skills. Take the following example. You have been working in a company where your boss does a brainstorming session and you have the perfect idea. You open your mouth and start speaking and your colleagues are not willing to listen to you even though your idea is amazing. So, what is going wrong here? The problem may lie in your speaking and talking habits. Your colleagues and boss are aware of your irritating speaking habits and hence, they don’t value your opinion. So, Oral Communication skills are crucial for being an effective worker.
The domain of Oral Communication is much broad than one expects. It envelopes normal talking and also visual chatting we do on social media sites like Snapchat, Skype and many more.
Oral Communication’s Sins and Virtues:
But What mistakes are you making while speaking? Keep on reading and you will find which of the seven deadly sins in the art of speaking are you making and how to remedy them?
Oral Communication’s Seven Deadly Sins:
These are common 7 habits of talking that hurt your credibility and make people cringe when you indulge in oral communication:
Whispering gossip is the first deadly sin that can hurt your reputation in a community. Even though you are not talking ill about someone in your gathering, they would still feel that you are judging them and making fun of them with someone too close to you. Also, it would b natural to think for the person with whom you are gossiping that you will gossip about them five minutes later.
There are some people who have a constant habit of judging the person they are talking to. And it makes it very difficult to listen to person you know is judging you. Also it can make you less confident when you know you are being judged. This results in lack of trust during oral communication
It is hard to listen to someone is too negative about everything in there conversation. There are some who have a habit to start every sentence with the word “No” and that makes it every irritating for the audience.
Its an another form of negativity. No one likes a person who is constantly complaining about about everything. Complaining is a viral misery. It gives out a bad image the person who is in habit of complaining because everyone can complain about bad things. Difference occurs when you have something to do about it. So, don’t be a complainer about your problems, be a solution maker.
No more excuses. No one wants to listen to a person who is always making excuses about his work. This happened, that happened. Everyone thinks of that as BS and walks away. So, minimize excuses from your speach.
It is rightfully said ” Lies are the root of all evils”. As one lie spawns another and chain goes on and on. Sometimes, some people are in habit of exaggerating their stories and often this exaggeration turns into lies. And no one wants to listen to a person about whom everyone knows is lying to our faces.
The confusion of facts and opinions. When these two things become conflated, you are listening to the wind. Someone is bombarding you with is opinions and you don’t quite know what is true and what is false and speaker becomes irritating and hard to listen to. So, Dogmatism is the killer of oral communication.
So, these are the seven sins in the art of talking that could really limit the transportation of your message to your audience. So, these are to be avoided.
Furthermore, there are four habits you should develop to make people want to listen to you:
Oral Communication’s four virtues:
In contrast to seven deadly sins, these following are the virtues of oral communication that will elevate you communication skills.
“Honesty is the best policy”. It means being true and clear about what you are saying. Your argument should have some proper backing of solid proof. Whatever you say it should be true, clear and easy to understand.
Be Yourself, Be authentic when you talk. Your words should be original and you should not be pretending to be like someone else. You should be standing in your own truth.
Be Your Word. You should actually believe in whatever you say. Actually doing what yo say. This makes you a man action rather than just words and makes people want to listen to your opinions.
Speak with love. Wish your audience well. As absolute honesty is something people would want from you, however your honesty should be in combination with love for your audience. Speak gently and lovingly.
Everyone wants people to listen to them when they talk. But how can they make people want to listen to you? Certainly, not by force, that would be a punishable crime. So, the answer lies in avoiding aforementioned seven deadly sins of talking and adopting four virtues instead.
So, what virtues and sins do you think are needed to be adopted and avoided, respectively for becoming a good speaker?